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To my younger self….

Dear sweet child,

I know the world feels scary sometimes and it will make you feel chewed up and spit out, as if you were nothing. 

People will reject you, abandon you, betray you. 

You will sometimes feel disappointed, confused by the absurdity of it all, hopeless and heartbroken.

You will sometimes be used and abused and left utterly alone.

It will sometimes feel like there’s a dark, stormy cloud following you around with no light to be found. 

And some days you’ll feel like giving up, laying down your sword and drifting off to the great big beyond. 

But hang on sweet child. Don’t let the darkness swallow you up. 

You have a beautiful light inside you that must be tended to with devotion… honoured, shared.

Let go of all the voices in your head telling you that you are broken, worthless, unloveable… the voices of those who’ve gone before you that never healed themselves and passed their pain onto you, like a torch.

You mustn’t carry it forward. Your work here in Earth School is to put it down… let it go. For it was never yours. 

And remember these words from your older, wiser self:

  • Always listen to your gut, your heart, your spirit team.
  • Don’t worry about making mistakes, looking stupid or being wrong about something. This is how you learn.
  • Never shrink to make others comfortable. Take up space!
  • Never dim your light for those afraid to see. They can buy some fucking sunglasses! 
  • Don’t abandon yourself. ALWAYS have your own back. 
  • Never take the blame or credit for something you didn’t do.
  • Always take responsibility for your actions. Apologise and then do better. 
  • It costs nothing to be kind.
  • It’s better to trust and get hurt, than to live with a closed heart. A closed heart can’t receive love. 
  • People lie and behave badly… and it’s not a reflection of you or your worth. 
  • Rejection is re-direction. Have faith.
  • You are always held and supported by the Universe. Trust it. 
  • You are a unique and precious being. Share your magic with the world.
  • You are made of love and stardust. It took a miracle’s decree to create you. That’s how important you are. 
  • Take care of your energetic diet as much as your physical diet. Both can be healing or toxic. 
  • It’s not being judgemental. It’s being discerning, which is an essential muscle to strengthen.
  • Watch out for fake gurus, coaches and anyone who encourages you to outsource your divinity. Your true guru lives inside you.
  • “No.” is a complete sentence. 
  • If someone thinks you’re too much, let them go find less.
  • Setting boundaries is an act of love. Those who treat it like an act of warfare are precisely why you need boundaries. 
  • It’s better to give from your overflow than your overwhelm. Take good care of yourself.
  • Self care is not selfish. Don’t let anyone convince you it is. 
  • Your soul tribe will get you, so don’t waste your time convincing any one of your worth.
  • And in the words of Dr. Seuss (allegedly): “Those who matter don’t mind and those who mind don’t matter.” You never need to hustle for love. 

Much love from your future self. 😘💖✨

If they wanted to…they would.

Oof! This lands hard

But… but… but…

Maybe they’re scared

Maybe they’re busy

Maybe they’re overwhelmed with big feelings

Maybe they’re just not that into you

Maybe you’ve been kidding yourself

Maybe you mistook emotional unavailability for confidence and mystery

The dopamine hit your nervous system is wired for

Maybe you settled for close enough

Because the loneliness felt bitter

Maybe you hoped they’d finally show up

Unarmored, vulnerable

If you just waited longer

Gave more

Gave it all

The thrill of the chase

Intoxicating 

Familiar

A fine distraction from the shadow work you’d rather avoid 

A beautiful dream

Unrequited connection

Can true love exist in a one-sided paradox?

The illusion of safety

Shut-down disguised as strength

Evasiveness disguised as busyness

Avoidance disguised as independence

A side option disguised as friendship

The triangulation you never agreed to

The exit strategy you ignored

Just a figment of your imagination 

The feelings you swallowed because you learned not to trust them

Your overthinking mind and oversensitive heart Wounded by indifference

And a careless hand

Withdrawal and armouring

The only safe harbour

Once again moored in heartbreak 

Christening her Se faire avoir

The real tragedy is hope

Designed to keep you hooked 

The promise of love

Dispensed sporadically

In meagre portions

Inspires craving

But never satiates

A mirage of water

Only to find it’s sand

You drink it anyway

Because you don’t recognise the difference

A deep thirst quenched

By the illusion of love

Such a silly child 

With the broken heart behind a beautiful smile

And a brave spirit

Love is all around you

Unconditionally

Infinitely

Abundantly

You need never hustle for it

For it is your birthright

You only need to let down your armour 

And let it flow through you

You are safe

You are loved

You are supported 

By a force much bigger than dreamt of in your imagination

It resides within you

Untouchable by those who wish to diminish it

You are your own true love

Always and forever ❤️

Follow your Bliss

“Follow your bliss and the universe will open doors for you where there were only walls.”

~Joseph Campbell.

Can you feel bliss knocking at the door of your soul?

You’ll feel it knocking as the sun shines on your face

As the gentle breeze blows across your skin

As you melt into strong arms, hugging you tightly

As you fold into cozy blankets in your soft cloud-like bed on a chilly night

As you sit in front of a roaring fire feeling its warm glow

As you stare deeply into the eyes of your beloved

As you feel your heart open wide to all the bliss in the universe

As you stroke the soft fur of your pet

As you sit quietly in meditation

Watching the gorgeous pink sky as the sun rises

And the golden orange radiance as the sun sets

As you gaze in wonder at the starlit sky

And the rising of the orange harvest full moon

Feeling your beautiful baby squeeze your finger and smile for the first time

The feeling of your baby sleeping peacefully on your chest

Listening to the sound of waves crashing on the shore

The nourishing feeling of warm soup on a cold Winter’s night

That first flush of infatuation

Then falling madly in love

The joy of deep belly laughs

Of dancing wildly

The peacefulness of laying on the earth amongst the trees

The satiated bliss after an orgasm

The cold, crisp, blue skies in Autumn

And the red, gold and orange leaves before they fall to the ground

The newborn lambs in Spring as they hop around the paddock with pure joy

The delicious slumber after a good cry

The glorious relaxation of a head massage

The sweetness on your tongue after the first bite of your favourite dessert

What brings you bliss?

Gratitude is knocking at the door….

Will you let it in?