“Vulnerability sounds like truth and feels like courage. Truth and courage aren’t always comfortable, but they’re never weakness.” ~Brene Brown~
Vulnerability, to me, means telling the truth, even when it gets me in trouble or causes me embarrassment. It’s saying, “I’m sorry” and asking for forgiveness. It’s saying, “I don’t know” and, “I love you.” It’s sharing my fears and secret shame with those I love and trust. It’s admitting I was wrong and that you were right. It’s allowing myself to be really seen, flaws and all. It’s following my dreams, despite the fear of failure. It is writing this blog and sharing it with the world.
Vulnerability feels like having a wide open heart; loving someone so much that they have the power to hurt me deeply, and loving them anyway. It’s allowing others to care for me when I’m sick or grieving. It’s sharing the truth when you ask me how I am feeling.
Being dependent is not vulnerability. Dependency makes me feel weak. I’m learning that there is a vast difference to being dependent and depending on others. It takes vulnerability to depend on someone, knowing that they could let me down. And if they do let me down, it’s knowing that I’ll be just fine, despite feeling hurt. I think that’s the main difference. Dependency creates the illusion that I have no power to create the life I want; that if you leave me or disappoint me, my life will come crashing down around me, causing irreparable damage.
Feeling pain is a sign of vulnerability. Rather than run from it, I allow it to flow freely through me, rejoicing in the knowledge that my heart is open. A closed heart doesn’t feel pain…it feels angry or numb, both defense mechanisms. When my heart is really open, my spirit is aligned with Source energy. This feels so amazing, it’s worth embracing and walking through the pain.
I would love to know what vulnerability means to you. Please share your answers in the comments section below.