I believe a lot of suffering comes from the “What-If” complex and the subsequent feelings we attach to those thoughts of…. “What if I can’t afford to pay my mortgage or put food on the table? What if my partner leaves me? What if I’m not good enough? What if I don’t get my needs met? What if I fail at something I really want to do? What if I end up looking like a fool in front of everyone? What if I make all this effort and still don’t get what I want? What if I go blind? What if my children get hurt or die? What if I lose everything?”
What if I stopped torturing myself with “what ifs”??
Allow your negative thoughts to pass by, like clouds in the sky, noticing them, but not attaching any judgment or feeling to them. By allowing them to pass on by, they leave no imprint whatsoever and, therefore, cause no suffering.